Taboos or Prohibited for BabaNyonya Marriage

August 25, 2010 at 4.04p08 (Uncategorized)


Having grown up with a Nyonya or Peranakan grandmother, there’s a lot of taboos and prohibited that you have to follow since young. The taboos list ranges from the daily life activities up to special occasions. Let me share with you some of the taboos

  • Pregnant women are prohibited to touch the items (gift, stuffs, wedding beds etc) or join in the preparations for the marriage ceremony. They are also strongly prohibited from entering the wedding chamber.
  • If you have just given birth and have not celebrated the baby’s full moon, the mother and baby are not allowed to join in the marriage celebration or should I say they are not allowed to step in the front door of the groom and bride to be’s house! Even the family members staying in the same house are not welcomed as they are also deemed as “not cleansed“ yet until the baby’s “Full Moon“ celebration.
  • Family members who are still mourning the passing away of their family member are also not allowed to join the baba nyonya Marriage ceremony as it was deemed very inauspicious to the marriage couple.

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Taboos or Prohibited in Wedding

August 25, 2010 at 4.04p08 (Uncategorized)


There’s a lot of taboos or prohibited (pantang larang) that you have to follow since young.Let me share with you some of taboos in malay wedding.

  • Do not go out with your couple for 40 days,before ijab kabul to avoid the imputation of society.
  • Do not go out freely
  • Do not eat rice with stew berkuah several months before progressing to bed to avoid a distended stomach.
  • Avoid eating salads smelly such as petai.
  • Avoid bath night for no good health to your body.
  • Avoid eating too much seafood as it contains many toxic.
  • Three months before the marriage, the bride to start a thread with energy.
  • Practice eating chicken eggs a week two times I mixed honey and black pepper I pounded for added energy.
  • For those have high wind,drinking ginger water for removing the wind.
  • Enough sleep(8hours)
  • Avoid drinking alcohol and smoking.
  • Avoid contact with sunlight as the feared black and shining on the day of marriage.
  • Avoid drinking cold water and soy because it is not good for sex organ.
  • Do not do hard work self. When the bride makes hard work, he will feel tired and easily place his emotional disturbance.‘.


*To avoid clashing of luck, for three months before and after their wedding, the bride and groom will not:

  • attend a funeral or wake;
  • attend a wedding;
  • visit a lady who is in confinement (ie within one month of giving birth)

*If one of the parents passes away, the bride or groom has to be in mourning, the wedding will either:

  • be conducted within 100 days of the death, or
  • postponed till 3 years (1000 days) after the death

*It is preferred that no one sleeps or sits on the bridal bed after its installation and blessing for fertility. If however, the groom needs to    sleep on it before the wedding he should be accompanied by a young boy preferably born in the year of the dragon. To leave one side of    the bridal bed empty is considered a curse on the health of the couple.

*If the bride meets another bride on the wedding day their luck may clash. The matchmakers or the bestmen from the two bridal parties will exchange red packets on the couple’s behalf to neutralize the effect of the clash.

*Persons born under horoscopes that clash on the wedding day are not invited as bridesmaids and bestmen, or invited to the wedding day  activities. However, they can attend the wedding banquet.

*To avoid clashing with the bride’s luck, everyone in the groom’s home will hide to avoid the bride when the couple enters the groom’s  home for the first time. They will return to the living room when the couple has entered the bridal room.

*Persons in mourning are not to attend any celebrations and entertainment within 100 days of the death as a form of respect for the dead.  So they will not attend any wedding celebrations.

* If a roast pig is included as part of the bride’s home visit gifts, be careful not to break the ears or tails accidentally. An imperfect roast pig  implies that the bride is not a virgin.

*Even numbers are used for joyous events. All red packets should contain even numbered amounts.

*White, blue, green are mourning colours and should not be used for wedding decorations.

*Pale yellow or white chrysanthemums floral arrangements are used at funerals or at visits to ancestral graves and should not be used for  weddings.

The not so taboo wedding taboo

*In the past, chinese believed that the bride and groom should not meet each other the day before the wedding. However, this taboo is no longer strictly observed.

*The bride and groom will usually meet up on the day before the wedding to finalise their wedding arrangements and collect the bridal  gowns, suits and flowers, etc.

*The taboo is now observed in a modified manner; the bride and groom will not sleep under the same roof the night before the wedding.


INDIA COMMUNITY Traditional Religion:

  • Marriage is one of the important events in the life of the Indian community. By tradition the Hindus, the marriage proposal (to apply) will be made by the woman.
  • Sharing expenses is also customary among the two parties and weddings are usually held at home of the bride, the temple or the house special.
  • At the wedding, the groom wedding dress arrived home that the bride will be accompanied by a special clamp, mother, father, and relatives. After ceremonial arathi (drive away evil spirits), the groom sat on the bed.

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Best Location

August 10, 2010 at 4.04p08 (Uncategorized)


Welcome to Four Seasons Resort Langkawi, Malaysia. An archipelago of 99 islands in the Andaman Sea, Langkawi is a tropical paradise of lush foliage and dramatic cliffs. Set on Tanjung Rhu, one of the island’s best beaches, Four Seasonscombines indigenous architecture with gracious service in a resort experience unmatched in Malaysia.

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Information About overseas wedding Season

August 10, 2010 at 4.04p08 (Uncategorized)

As for your information,I just want to share about wedding season.I know Malaysia doesn’t have spring and winter season.So,lets read together.


Spring is a time of rebirth and renewal – a perfect time for the new adventure that a marriage brings. Yet in the race for most popular time of year to get married, spring is a distant third place behind summer and autumn. This is good news if you’re planning a spring wedding, as more top-notch vendors will be available, and you may be able to get discounted rates, especially on sites and travel.

If you’re considering a spring wedding, start off by thinking about your favorite parts of the season. Is it crocuses poking up through snow? Perhaps you’ll want to have a wedding early in the season, and offer the respite of floral abundance and warmth when guests come in from the cold. If it’s the emerging sunshine, choose bright colors and May weather. Here are some ideas to get you started on planning your spring wedding:


The preppy pink and green color combination couldn’t be more spring-like, and is perfect for a beautiful, fresh spring wedding. Accent your tables with polka-dot or gingham fabrics and ribbons, and use alternating pink and green chair colors. For a more elegant look, combine celadon green with white, using silver as an accent color. If you’re having an outdoor wedding and a fair amount of children, a may pole does double duty as entertainment and elegant decoration. Instead of rice, consider asking your guests to throw rose petals, or release butterflies.

Spring Wedding Flowers:

Flowers in season include roses, tulips, hyacinth, lilies and Gerber daisies. Multi-colored calla lilies are very popular and look beautiful in a spring arrangement. Combine a dozen with lemon leaf or maiden hair, or create a simple hand tied nosegay.

For centerpieces, subtly evoke the Easter season by using white baskets filled with oasis floral form and an abundance of spring flowers. An inexpensive centerpiece for a garden wedding is a terracotta pot with a spring-moss or ivy covered Styrofoam ball affixed to it. Add small candles around it and/or some rose petals.

Consider tying your bouquet with polka-dot or striped ribbon in a bright or pastel color, adding a bit of unexpected pattern and freshness.


Summer – the most beautiful time to get married. May through August is the number one most popular time of year to get married, and for good reason too. Summer weddings are full of sunshine and warmth, and allow you to get married outside in good weather. Take full advantage of the season and all it has to offer you when planning your summer wedding with these tips and ideas.

Summer weddings are ripe for an outdoor setting such as a beach, a garden, or a beautiful yard. Take advantage of the long days with an afternoon wedding, or highlight the glorious sunsets by saying your vows as the sun goes down behind you. Use fresh fruits and vegetables to decorate — perhaps including clementines and cumquats in your flower arrangements, or simply filling a large vase with bright yellow lemons. Bring light to an evening wedding with torches and strings of lanterns in the trees. An extra-summery idea is to use gingham tablecloths with a few sunflowers in metal watering cans as centerpieces.

Summer Wedding Flowers

You can’t go wrong with an abundance of flowers at a summer wedding. There are so many varieties in season, you may have a tough time narrowing your choices down! Fill the scene with bright and cheerful flowers such as roses, sunflowers, red and yellow calla lilies, dahlias, gerber daisies, cosmos, mums, and zinnias. Bright purple dendrobium orchids are much less expensive during the summer months, so you can feel like a queen without the budget of one.

An alternative idea is an airy summer look with mostly white and light colored flowers such as roses, stephanotis, white phlox, elegant white calla lilies, huge and fragrant casa blanca lilies, hydrangea, snowball mums, and daisies (also known as Shasta daisies).


If you choose to celebrate your wedding in the winter months, there are many beautiful themes and colors to represent the season. The bride and groom have many things to look forward as they start their life together and many huge decisions to make as they prepare for their big day.  From wedding colors to flowers to the honeymoon, there are many things to prepare before the wedding day arrives.

For a glamorous winter wedding, you might choose colors like silver and white.  The simplicity of this color scheme will add elegance to the occasion without overdoing the colors.  You might also choose some subtle holiday colors to enhance your day.  Flowers are also important to the color and overall theme of the wedding.  Red roses and calla lilies are among the most popular winter wedding flowers.  Fuller flowers like hydrangeas and ranunculuses are popular trends in winter flowers for weddings.

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August 5, 2010 at 4.04p08 (Uncategorized)

Headgearheadwear or headdress is the name given to any element of clothing which is worn on one’s head.

Headgear serve a variety of purposes:

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August 5, 2010 at 4.04p08 (Uncategorized)

In modern times, however, a tiara is generally a semi-circular band, often metal-made and decorated with jewels, which is worn as a form of adornment and not as a symbol of rank. It is worn by women around their head or on the forehead as a circlet. They are frequently used to “crown” the winners of beauty pageants and are also sometimes worn by the bride as part of a wedding outfit.make tiaras fascinating headdresses.

A tiara on a brides head really makes her look like a princess. From thousands of years women have won tiara’s n their heads on theirweddings and the inner meaning is that the tiara represents the dignity and the beauty of the woman who is wearing it. It also makes the bride look elegant and sophisticated. So no wedding ensemble is complete

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August 5, 2010 at 4.04p08 (Uncategorized)

A crown is the traditional symbolic form of headgear worn by a monarch or by a deity, for whom the crown traditionally represents power,legitimacy, immortality, righteousness, victory, triumph, resurrection, honour and glory of life after death. In art the crown may be shown being offered to those on Earth by angels. Apart from the traditional form, crowns also may be made of, for example, flowers, stars, oak leaves orthorns and be worn by others, representing what the coronation part aims to symbolize with the specific crown. They often contain jewels.

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wedding hairstyles

August 5, 2010 at 4.04p08 (Uncategorized)

To make your wedding day absolutely unforgettable, your hairstyle has to be beautiful, as such a special occasion warrants it.

Types of hair wedding styles:

  • Long wedding hairstyles with beautiful hair cascading down a woman’s back is so gorgeous.

  • Whether the hair is worn down or up, or curly, or straight, there are so many different hairstyles from which to choose.

  • Altering the wedding hairstyle to coordinate with a dress or to fit the theme is so easy for a woman with long hair.

  • The bride should have a hair style which is classy, elegant, and most of all, seamless. Everything that she has on her body on her wedding day should match and complement each other.


A bride needs to have a perfect head of hair on her wedding day. Having silky and shining tresses is a reflection of a bride’s beauty on her day of days, and it is something that will show and be immortalized in her wedding photographs, to be viewed in the many, many years to come.

If you are a bride-to-be, you should know that having perfect hair for your wedding takes time and preparation. You will not have it in an instant as you dress for your wedding. If you want to have great hair for when you get married, you should aim to have healthy hair. To get your hair in a truly healthy condition will need at least six months of preparation.

Six Months Before the Wedding: Hair Diet

Having healthy hair starts with doing a number of lifestyle changes at least six months before the wedding. These lifestyle changes include eating a balanced diet, getting adequate sleep, and minimizing habits such as drinking alcohol and smoking.

Diet plays a huge factor in maintaining a healthy hair. As the sages have it, we are what we eat. Thus, to have healthy and beautiful hair in time for your wedding, you should start eating a protein-rich diet. Hair is made up of keratin so protein can strengthen it. Lean red meat, whole grains, soy and legumes are excellent sources of protein.

Also, to prevent hair loss, you should include iron and Vitamin C in your diet. Iron keeps the pigmentation of the hair vivid and adds to the hair’s glow. Vitamin C, on the other hand, helps the body absorb iron more easily. Vitamin C is also an antioxidant that will help deal with the free radicals in your hair.

If you are suffering from dandruff or an itchy scalp, it may help a lot to include zinc in your diet. Foods rich in zinc are shellfish, lentils and almonds.

Six Weeks Before the Wedding: Hair Hygiene and Styling

Aside from your diet, you should also pay attention to your hair hygiene. Wash your hair daily with a high-quality shampoo and conditioner that is especially made for your hair type. The same goes for your other hair care products: they should be of high quality and suited for the type of your hair.

While you are taking care of your hair, you should also start consulting your hairstylist about how you will wear your hair on your wedding day. Brainstorm with him/her your ideas on what kind of hairdo you want to wear as you walk down the aisle.

Two Weeks Before the Wedding

By this time, you should have a healthy head of hair if you followed a hair diet regimen. You should have also decided on what hairstyle to wear on the day of your wedding.

Two weeks before the wedding is the time to get the hair trimmed. It is also the time to get the hair colored; that is, if you color your hair. In this way, you will make sure that the discolored roots will not show and that the highlights and the lowlights of your hair will be updated.

On the Night Before the Wedding

Dirty hair is far easier to style than squeaky clean hair. So, you should wash your hair 24 hours before the wedding, and then leave it as it is.

On Your Wedding Day

Relax and do not mind your hair too much. You have done everything you can do to have beautiful hair on your wedding day, so you should just have fun and enjoy the first day of your married life.

Just in case your hairstyle unravels on you, however, have one of your bridesmaids bring a tote filled with emergency hair styling products like spare pins, clips, brushes and hairsprays so you can redo your hair in a jiffy.

Tips for Choosing the Perfect Wedding Hair style:

Task yourself with researching hairstyles online to see what strikes your fancy. View a few Web sites, especially wedding-centered sites, and print out your favorite styles.

Pick up a few bridal magazines and get an idea of what people are doing. Bridal hairstyles come in countless fashions and trends. Subscribe to a bridal magazine or pick one up every now and again to give yourself some ideas.

Go for a sample hairdo prior to the big day. First of all, getting a sample hairdo done will give you an idea of what to expect from your wedding day hairstyle. Secondly, meeting with your stylist prior to the date will give you both a chance to play around with your hair and the options available to you. You can try all different styles and see what you like best.

Take pictures at your sample hairstyle appointment. Even if you have an elephant’s memory, bring your camera along to the salon and ask your stylist to take some pictures of you with your hairstyle. Save these pictures so you can look back and decide if the style is absolutely positively what you want on your wedding day.

Try your hair several ways. Even if you think you know how you want to wear it, it can’t hurt to let your stylist play around a bit with your hair. Get a complete up-do, a completely down style, and a style that involves hair half-up and half-down.

Wear a shirt or outfit that is similar to the style of the dress. If your wedding gown is strapless, wear a tube top or a strapless dress to the salon so you can get an even better idea of what you will look like on your wedding day.

Don’t forget your headpiece! If you plan to wear a veil or a tiara on your wedding day, don’t forget to bring them along to your sample hairstyle appointment. Make sure you get pictures with this as well!

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