A Malay Wedding.

A Malay wedding:

Malay wedding is usually performed when either one or both spouses are Malay. Malaysian law defines a Malay person as a Muslim. The traditional wedding ceremony is in two parts. The first part is the akad nikah (marriage contract), which is the legal and religious part of the wedding. The second part is the bersanding (enthronement), which is a family celebration. It is usual for the two parts to be celebrated over two days. However, it is becoming common for there to be a gap between the parts of the wedding, during which the couple are legally married, but saving up for an elaborate bersanding. In cases where the couple have family spread around the world, a number of bersanding may be held in different countries to allow everyone to wish the couple well.

The bride and groom:

Part of Wedding:

  • Adat Merisik

The adat merisik (asking ceremony, or more literally ‘spying custom’) is the traditional Malay system for arranging marriages. When it is time for a young man to get married, his family will look around to identify a number of potential brides. Nowadays, the man might suggest to his family who he would like them to consider, and it may be that a romantic link already exists between the man and woman. Having decided upon one particular woman, the merisik, or investigation process, takes place.

For this ceremony one or more representatives (wakil) of the man’s family pay a friendly visit to the family of the woman whom they have in mind as his potential bride. The visit is purely for the purpose of further investigation, and it gives the visitors the chance to see the woman. A hint will be given to her parents regarding the purpose of the visit, and their reaction will be assessed. The woman’s parents may also give the visitors some idea as to whether or not their daughter would be interested in the match. The merisik does not constitute a formal proposal. Following the visit both sides can begin to think more seriously about the possibility or otherwise of a marriage. It is possible that no progress may take place, and the man’s parents or representatives will then look for another possible bride.

  • Adat bertunang:

The adat bertunang (engagement custom) is normally held at the bride’s home.

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  • Akad Nikah:

A Malay wedding proper begins with the akad nikah (marriage contract) ceremony. The groom signs the marriage contract and agrees to provide the bride with a mas kahwin (mahar,literally ‘marriage gold’ in form of money or goods or anything as requested by the bride).It is opposite to dowry where the mas khawin is paid by the groom to the bride. The mas khawin is a symbol to show that the men is willing and are prepared to build a family with the lady he chose to get married to. The contract signing is done before a religious official and is accompanied by prayer.

If the bersanding is to take place the next day, the couple’s hands are dyed with henna during the berinai besar (great henna-ing) ceremony. The bride’s hair is also trimmed, eyebrows shaped and make-up applied by a beautician, known as the mak andam. Then the bride puts on her tudung (hijab or headscarf) to cover their hair and a selendang, or embroidered and beaded shawl over that. A crown is also placed on top of the shawl. If the bersanding does not take place on the day following the nikah, these preparation customs are delayed until the bersanding.

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  • Adat Bersanding:

The bersanding(enthronement)ceremony begins with the groom’s procession with friends,relatives,musicians and people waving bunga manggar(palm blossom) to meet the bride.Often various good-humoured attempts are made to waylay or stopthe groom from getting to the bride.The main part of the bersanding involves the seating of the bridal couple on a dais and sprinkling them with yellow rice and scented water by family members,relatives,friends and guests as a sign of blessing.

Each guest will receive a bunga telur(egg flower) a decorated egg with a fabric flower,as a sign of fertility.The couple are considered royalty for the day,and so various royal customs are performed for them,including musicians playing court musicand ‘bodyguards’performing a display of ‘pencak silat’(traditional malay martial arts).

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  • After the bersanding ceremony:

After the bersanding ceremony,the wedded couple and their guests attend a celebratory feast called the makan beradab(formal meal).This involves the bride and groom feeding each other sweetened rice.The celebrations are conclude by posing for family photograph.

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  • photo session with bride:

Bride and groom will make the memory with parent,relatives,friends,guests and other during photo session.

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