Taboos or Prohibited in Wedding

August 25, 2010 at 4.04p08 (Uncategorized)


There’s a lot of taboos or prohibited (pantang larang) that you have to follow since young.Let me share with you some of taboos in malay wedding.

  • Do not go out with your couple for 40 days,before ijab kabul to avoid the imputation of society.
  • Do not go out freely
  • Do not eat rice with stew berkuah several months before progressing to bed to avoid a distended stomach.
  • Avoid eating salads smelly such as petai.
  • Avoid bath night for no good health to your body.
  • Avoid eating too much seafood as it contains many toxic.
  • Three months before the marriage, the bride to start a thread with energy.
  • Practice eating chicken eggs a week two times I mixed honey and black pepper I pounded for added energy.
  • For those have high wind,drinking ginger water for removing the wind.
  • Enough sleep(8hours)
  • Avoid drinking alcohol and smoking.
  • Avoid contact with sunlight as the feared black and shining on the day of marriage.
  • Avoid drinking cold water and soy because it is not good for sex organ.
  • Do not do hard work self. When the bride makes hard work, he will feel tired and easily place his emotional disturbance.‘.


*To avoid clashing of luck, for three months before and after their wedding, the bride and groom will not:

  • attend a funeral or wake;
  • attend a wedding;
  • visit a lady who is in confinement (ie within one month of giving birth)

*If one of the parents passes away, the bride or groom has to be in mourning, the wedding will either:

  • be conducted within 100 days of the death, or
  • postponed till 3 years (1000 days) after the death

*It is preferred that no one sleeps or sits on the bridal bed after its installation and blessing for fertility. If however, the groom needs to    sleep on it before the wedding he should be accompanied by a young boy preferably born in the year of the dragon. To leave one side of    the bridal bed empty is considered a curse on the health of the couple.

*If the bride meets another bride on the wedding day their luck may clash. The matchmakers or the bestmen from the two bridal parties will exchange red packets on the couple’s behalf to neutralize the effect of the clash.

*Persons born under horoscopes that clash on the wedding day are not invited as bridesmaids and bestmen, or invited to the wedding day  activities. However, they can attend the wedding banquet.

*To avoid clashing with the bride’s luck, everyone in the groom’s home will hide to avoid the bride when the couple enters the groom’s  home for the first time. They will return to the living room when the couple has entered the bridal room.

*Persons in mourning are not to attend any celebrations and entertainment within 100 days of the death as a form of respect for the dead.  So they will not attend any wedding celebrations.

* If a roast pig is included as part of the bride’s home visit gifts, be careful not to break the ears or tails accidentally. An imperfect roast pig  implies that the bride is not a virgin.

*Even numbers are used for joyous events. All red packets should contain even numbered amounts.

*White, blue, green are mourning colours and should not be used for wedding decorations.

*Pale yellow or white chrysanthemums floral arrangements are used at funerals or at visits to ancestral graves and should not be used for  weddings.

The not so taboo wedding taboo

*In the past, chinese believed that the bride and groom should not meet each other the day before the wedding. However, this taboo is no longer strictly observed.

*The bride and groom will usually meet up on the day before the wedding to finalise their wedding arrangements and collect the bridal  gowns, suits and flowers, etc.

*The taboo is now observed in a modified manner; the bride and groom will not sleep under the same roof the night before the wedding.


INDIA COMMUNITY Traditional Religion:

  • Marriage is one of the important events in the life of the Indian community. By tradition the Hindus, the marriage proposal (to apply) will be made by the woman.
  • Sharing expenses is also customary among the two parties and weddings are usually held at home of the bride, the temple or the house special.
  • At the wedding, the groom wedding dress arrived home that the bride will be accompanied by a special clamp, mother, father, and relatives. After ceremonial arathi (drive away evil spirits), the groom sat on the bed.

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